Birthdays

For the past few months, I have been writing brief updates on each of our Good Samaritan kids during the month of their birthday. They are posted on the AwakenHaiti blog, but I thought I would start posting them on my blog too! It is a good way for people to get to see, and know, a little about each of the kids I get to work with!

JANUARY

Frankline Belange – January 1, 1998 - will be 15 this month. Frankline is a very athletic girl. She often keeps to herself and doesn’t talk a lot, but when it comes to games and sports she is always playing hard. Her quiet demeanor gets pushed aside when it comes to competition – she loves it! Once in a while, you will catch Frankline with her friends being silly and goofy – but only if no one is watching.

Gina Michel – January 11, 1998 - turns 15 this month. Gina is an extremely sweet, caring girl. She enjoys the simple things in life! You will often find her holding one of the cats at the girls home, or her Barbie doll. When teams come, Gina loves to find one person to sit with, hold their hand, and talk to. She has a great big smile, along with a great big heart!

Judith Rodney – January 17, 1998 - turns 15 this month. Judith is one of our ‘go-to’ girls when it comes to decorating for parties and activities. She is very creative and an excellent crafts-person. Judith is also one of our best dancers in gym class.

Loubens Lector – January 15, 2008 - turns 5 this month, along with his twin brother Loubenson. Loubens is often shy and will quietly go about his day. But, once he opens up, he is very sweet and loves to be held. Loubens also is a fan of tickling! Both he and his twin brother LOVE to dance, Loubens being the more particular dancer, trying to do the moves correctly.

Loubenson Lector – January 15, 2008 – turns 5 this month, along with his twin brother Loubens. Loubenson is full of energy and has a great big personality. He will usually be found talking, climbing things, wrestling, or running throughout the house. Like his brother, Loubenson has a soft side and can be found giving out hugs and and kisses to the girls in the home. Loubenson also likes to free-style dance!

DECEMBER

Daphney Belfond – December 4, 1994 – Daphney turns 18 this month. Daphney shares a birthday month with her younger sister Marie-Ange. Daphney is a very quiet, introspective young woman. She is very smart. Daphney has said she really enjoys reading and writing. Her English skills are some of the best in the Good Samaritan homes!

Marie-Ange Belfond – December 13, 1998 – Marie-Ange will be turning 14 this month. She shares a birthday month with her older sister Daphney. Like her older sister, Marie-Ange is very smart. She is beginning to mature and be very motivated to use her mind and learn. This past fall, she had the fastest and most accurate typing skills in Computer class, clearly improving each week!      

     

Carme-Suze Desance – December 10, 1995 – Carme-Suze will be 17 this month. You will very rarely find Carme-Suze without a smile on her face! She is full of life and energy, and very out-going. Carme-Suze is also the ‘queen of the cards’ when it comes to playing various card games with the other girls. She almost always wins!  

Lovely Francois – December 21, 1998 – Lovely turns 14 this month. Lovely is a beautifully tall girl who has a mild way about her. When asked about what she would like to do when she gets older, she said she would like to design clothes. Lovely seems to always be mixing and matching different clothes and hairstyles for various occasions!

Sandra Gillaume – December 13, 1996 – Sandra will be 16 this month. Sandra has really been working on developing her English skills. Because of this, she has been able to help translate sponsor letters and work alongside teams to translate. As a result, Sandra is blossoming out of her quiet personality into a confident young woman. 

 NOVEMBER

Manoucheca Jean Baptiste – November 6, 1993 – Manoucheca is 19 years old this month. She is one of the care-takers of the group. You can find Manoucheca cooking, doing laundry, taking care of the younger children, and helping around the house as needed.  Manoucheca also enjoys singing and often sings solos at birthday parties and other events the children organize.  

Love Cazeau – November 28, 2000 – Love turns 12 years old this month. Love is  very outgoing and friendly girl.  She enjoys almost anything she does. She is a very well-rounded girl who really loves Gym class and volleyball. She has a great personality and is often the one greeting visitors at the door of the girls home.

Phaline Cledanor – November 30, 1990 – Phaline turns 22 this month. Her twin sister is Phara. Phaline is in her 2nd year of a 2-year nursing program. She loves to care for others. She loved working in the clinic in Canaan this summer and hopes to have the opportunity to do clinic again. Phaline would love to give back to others someday by using her nursing skills and caring, loving personality!

Phara Cledanor – November 30, 1990 - Phara turns 22 this month. Her twin sister is Phaline.  Phara is a smart, independent girl who knows what she wants. You will find her studying and working hard on her schooling. Phara can also be silly - joking around and playing with the younger children.

OCTOBER

Kevencia Cazeau – October 7, 1996- Kevencia will be 16 this month.  She can often be found doing chores around the house, taking care of others, and joking with the AWAKENHAITI staff. Kevencia tends to joke and pick on people because that is how she shows love and care.  She is also quite the daredevil. When swimming this summer, Kim was doing tricks in the pool and Kevencia tried them all.  She is willing to task a risk for the sake of experiencing something.

Lens Belval- October 10, 2002- Lens is 10 years old this month.  He is always on the move, full of energy and loves to be the center of activity.  Lens loves to perform songs and show his smooth moves at the monthly birthday parties.  He enjoys playing soccer!

Resinette Forestral – October 27, 1992 Resinette will be 20 this month.  Resinette is a very sensitive girl and loves talking with people.  She has a very caring heart and wants to help those in need.  Resinette is determined to learn English and will often practice by writing letters.  She enjoys when teams come because she can meet new people and practice her English.

Wilmine Cledanor –October 29, 1995 Wilmine will be 17 this month.  She works very hard to be sure she is doing a task correctly.  On our field trip to Wynne Farm, she picked up on knitting very quickly. Because of this, she was eager to teach others in her group exactly how it was done! She is incredibly helpful. Wilmine also loves to dance!  She has a very silly side and loves to get others laughing.

Endings

Disappointment. Frustration. Anger.

That is what I have been feeling for the past week or so. Since arriving here, I have heard multiple times how much living in Haiti can frustrate a person. Until recently, I've only experienced that frustration on a small scale - a moment here, a moment there.

But last week, that all changed. I could go in to the multiple, and I mean MULTIPLE, events that happened. But, really, they aren't important. What is important is the way they left me feeling - disappointment leading to frustration leading to anger. All the little things added up to one big theme...What are you doing with my life, God? Why am I even here? I don't HAVE to be doing this. I could easily just move back home and not have to deal with all the frustration and disappointment here - all this stuff I have no control over. Ahhhhh!

On Saturday, I decided to sleep-over at the Girls Home. With the state I was in, I wasn't sure if this was a good or bad idea - I didn't want to find myself losing my cool over something ridiculous that might happen there, like it being too hot or having to share a mattress - making a great representation of the 'rich, white American'! :)

Thankfully, that didn't happen! But what did happen has, once again, taught me a lesson in changing my perspective.

A few of the older girls pulled me in their room to sleep. With 6 of us laying on 3 mattresses on the floor, they began grilling me with questions - BOY questions. Do I have a boyfriend? Why not? Have I had a boyfriend? Giggles upon giggles...for the question of the night...had I ever kissed a boy???

Hahaha...I just had to laugh. These weren't little girls I was talking to. They were 17, 20, and 22 year olds. Young women!! Asking me all about kissing a boy, like a middle school sleep-over. At one point, one of the girls even had me stand up to act out who initiates a kiss, the girl or boy. At that point, I lost it!! In a good way...I mean, here I am sleeping at a girls orphanage in Haiti, answering questions on what it's like to kiss a boy!

As I lay there trying to fall asleep with a smile on my face, I thought, "I really need to think about how I'm handling what is making me so angry and frustrated. These girls are 22 and have never even had the opportunity to go on a date, or barely talk to a boy for that matter. They have never been able to leave their house on their own or have any independence." Maybe all these disappointments I had been experiencing were to show me how truly blessed I was?

And then a few days later, I receive this EMAIL. Please take the time to click the link and read the whole email, as these excerpts won't even do it justice:

You don’t get to make up most of your story. You get to make peace with it.
You don’t get to demand your life, like a given. You get to accept your life, like a gift. 
Beginnings and middles, they are only yours to embrace, to unwrap like a gift.

For the past week, I have been demanding my life - focusing on what I want to do or what I think I need - and when things don't go according to plan, I feel disappointed...and I let that disappointment lead me to frustration and anger.

But you get the endings. You always get the endings.
You get the endings and you get to make them a gift back to the Giver.

I have been letting my disappointments dictate my endings. I don't think feeling disappointment is wrong, but it is how you handle that disappointment that matters. I'm sure the girls in the girls home aren't always thrilled that they don't have independence or can't go out on a date with a boy. I'm sure they are disappointed that they can't demand how they want their life to go. But something I seem to notice in them is that they ACCEPT IT - and not because they have no other choice. They accept their lives with grace and humility, trusting that God gets to decide, not them. Their choice lies in trusting that God knows best, even in the seemingly disappointing moments.

What if - She let herself be loved whatever way her Lord deemed best. 

The ending of everything is always yours.

Connecting Two Worlds

One of the neatest parts of living in Haiti is getting to watch the stuff that doesn't actually take place in Haiti! By that, I mean, watching how the communities and people-groups I belonged to in the States have really come alongside of me and gotten to experience Haiti as well. It is so neat to see how all these different communities have chosen to get involved in Haiti and live for something more - more than just their daily jobs and routines, more than just their typical life, and more than just watching my journey, actually becoming a part of it.

Just two examples:

1. The team we are hosting in March is made up of my parents, aunt and uncle, a few couples from the church I grew up in, and a few teachers and residents from Hershey where I used to teach. That, in and of itself, is so cool! But, they have been doing a few fundraisers for their trip. One of them is hosting 5 weekly Zumba classes throughout January. From what I understand, close to 40 people have shown up for the weekly classes!!! And the best part is...some of the dances they are doing are ones that I have been teaching the girls at Good Samaritan. Check out one of our dances below:

2. Before I left, I was doing a few speaking engagements to various groups about what it was I would be doing, etc. One of those groups was a youth group in Hershey. The following night after I met with them, I received an email from one of the high school girls, Gabi. She asked if she could put together an 'art packet' for the girls and boys to make bracelets. The following day I picked up all the supplies she had bought and put together. This December, a team and I spent the morning helping the kids create bracelets! Two different cultures, two different worlds...united by One purpose!

Some of the bracelet supplies! Thank you Gabi!!!

Loubens and Loubenson hard at work!

Frankline and Love trying to figure out how to mix colors.

Yviolene, proud of her finished bracelet. Notice the paint on her forehead!

Bracelets, drying in the sun!

Nadia's final product!

Laughter

If you have ever traveled to another country or interacted with someone from another culture, you might find that it is hard to connect with one another. You might not be able to speak their language, or understand their culture, but I have found that you can always LAUGH together. Whether playing a game and laughing, trying to speak each others language and laughing at your efforts, or laughing at someone being silly...I believe laughter is one of THE best tools for connecting cultures!

Here is my first-hand example of this belief:

Stephanie and Sandra are two of the Good Samaritan girls. Stephanie is 21 and was recently our first high school graduate (this is a huge deal in Haiti to be able to graduate!!). She just started her first University classes! On weekends, she stays with us and works for AwakenHaiti to begin making money to support herself. Sandra is 16 and will be moving to the USA in the coming weeks. She is also staying with us until then. Because of this, we have been trying to find entertaining things to do in the evenings together. I knew the girls loved taking pictures of themselves and so I decided to try the PhotoBooth application on my computer that distorts your faces. Oh boy, did we ever laugh! We are still laughing today!

This laughter is one more tool that is bringing our worlds together.

Stephanie is on the left of the screen and Sandra is on the right...

*Sidenote: This is not what we actually look like :)